Apparently it's infertility awareness week, so all sorts of posts and articles have come across my screen the past few days. None of them have really stood out as something worth sharing or passing on until this one, which is pretty encouraging for me to read.
We are 9 and a half years into this journey. While it hasn't gotten easier, it has gotten less bitter. We know God holds both our future and that of our children. Miss H brings joy to our lives every day, but that does not dissipate our desire to both birth and adopt more children. She frequently asks us when she can have a sibling to play with and prays regularly for another little someone to join our family. I never realized that our infertility would affect her heart as much as it does, sometimes leaving all three of us in tears.
Many people have asked us about different fertility treatments, adoption options, and why we don't just pick and do "x." None of the decisions are easy or inexpensive, and all are filled with ethical considerations. Building a family is not just about a desire for more children under our roof; it is about loving people in the way Jesus loves and adopts us.
Here's a little update on our story. We have tried several medications to combat PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome), none of them worked. We adopted 6 embryos in 2009, have transferred all of them now, and have lost 5. We briefly held a foster care home license in Washington before moving to San Jose, and are now in the final (hopefully!) stages of getting certified in California. We recently revisited medication, though not to the desired effect. The doctor has again recommended either IFV, which we do not feel comfortable with ethically due to the culling that happens once eggs are fertilized, or more embryo adoption.
The doctors have again recommended that we do IVF, but the precedent for, and almost certain, destruction of newly created embryos make this ethically not ok for us. We plan to again pursue embryo adoption, while caring for Miss H and any children we welcome to our home through foster care.